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Your Transition Isn’t Always the Cause, Sometimes It’s Just You!
What happens to Your Relationships After You Come Out Isn’t Always About Your Gender…
Today we would have celebrated our 9th wedding Anniversary. Since coming out Trans to my wife several months back, our relationship has been in a terminal nose dive. It is painful to recognize today as our anniversary. After all, who really wants to be reminded of something like that with the potential for the end so near. Since coming out, we have looked back together over our decade-plus life together including our time as a married couple.
I have opened up to her about my depression, my dysphoria, and my long descent into a pit of hopelessness and despair. She, in turn, has shared with me what is like to live with someone emotionally unavailable, introverted, and completely broken. There is more in addition to that that she has been gracious enough to also not say, but that I am now cognizant of none the less. She had to live with a person who let themselves deteriorate so far as a human being as to be some days only ‘alive’ in the clinical definition of the word. Someone who allowed themselves to gain the weight of three times the healthy body weight of an adult male. Someone who let their health slide so severely that getting up to go the bathroom or, more likely…
